Comments for Signs of Cocaine http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine Information About the Signs of Cocaine Use and Addiction Thu, 22 Apr 2010 22:40:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by jmiller083 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1427 jmiller083 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 22:40:28 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1427 Ok this is why God did not bless me with a daughter. Where is your father, First he attempted to break a chair over your stomach while you were pregnant with his child (Does that say I love you). You would have been attending a funeral if you were my Daughter. Second He pawn his wedding ring you bought (Does that say I love you). He has been in and out of rehab for coke and alcohol. I sorry young lady I am 26 years old with two sons and I was never raised that way. He does not show you or his own flesh and blood love, if he did he would not do the things he has done to you. He will not change you should see that now. Take your lost and move on to bigger and better things. There is a REAL man out there for you that will not touch you hit you or leave you and your daughter. Remember Love does not hurt Love is kind. God Bless J. Miller Ok this is why God did not bless me with a daughter. Where is your father, First he attempted to break a chair over your stomach while you were pregnant with his child (Does that say I love you). You would have been attending a funeral if you were my Daughter. Second He pawn his wedding ring you bought (Does that say I love you). He has been in and out of rehab for coke and alcohol. I sorry young lady I am 26 years old with two sons and I was never raised that way. He does not show you or his own flesh and blood love, if he did he would not do the things he has done to you. He will not change you should see that now. Take your lost and move on to bigger and better things. There is a REAL man out there for you that will not touch you hit you or leave you and your daughter. Remember Love does not hurt Love is kind. God Bless J. Miller

]]> Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by saras'sodasmells http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1426 saras'sodasmells Tue, 20 Apr 2010 14:05:41 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1426 hay look it sucks. u know it, but just as u didn't get to pick all the traits of your kid.she does not get to pick those of dad. its both of your jobs to hlp on another FOR THE YOUNG ONE so she will be ready for all the bad in the world. no one wants to see their child go through the same death ride on drugs.they went through or are going through tell him its his job for christs sake. spend time with gods blessing it wont kill him hay look it sucks. u know it, but just as u didn’t get to pick all the traits of your kid.she does not get to pick those of dad. its both of your jobs to hlp on another FOR THE YOUNG ONE so she will be ready for all the bad in the world. no one wants to see their child go through the same death ride on drugs.they went through or are going through tell him its his job for christs sake. spend time with gods blessing it wont kill him

]]> Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by Liz http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1425 Liz Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:16:49 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1425 Your whole entire 4-billion-word post is about your loser of a husband. You need to seriously pull your head out of your nether regions and realise that you have bigger fish to fry than to agonise over how many more years of your life you should waste on "standing by him to prove your loyalty". You have a child now and she has the first claim on you and all you have to give - loyalty, love, caring, the whole lot. Put that mess you call a marriage behind yourself and focus on building a better future for yourself and your daughter. The dopehead you married can never be a part of that - not if you want a normal, happy, balanced life for your child, that is. Your whole entire 4-billion-word post is about your loser of a husband. You need to seriously pull your head out of your nether regions and realise that you have bigger fish to fry than to agonise over how many more years of your life you should waste on “standing by him to prove your loyalty”. You have a child now and she has the first claim on you and all you have to give – loyalty, love, caring, the whole lot. Put that mess you call a marriage behind yourself and focus on building a better future for yourself and your daughter. The dopehead you married can never be a part of that – not if you want a normal, happy, balanced life for your child, that is.

]]> Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by craig b http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1424 craig b Sat, 17 Apr 2010 01:03:27 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1424 Why did you give your husband the cocaine? Why did you mix the drinks for him? oh, you didn't? Then why do you think that you have any part of this? This is not your deal. In life, you have to stand up and defend your own heart - FIRST! You are not protecting your heart first - you are acting out in love to work on your husband's heart. STOP IT! His heart is not your deal now! Why you feel like a failure? Because you are embracing his trash as YOUR own! STOP IT! You are the classic codependent. In some ways this is not wrong. It shows the empathy and compassion you have for another. This is a strong trait for therapists and counselors but they don't get "sucked" into the life of the client. You are being sucked in - big time. File for the divorce and get your life back. If things work out - you can always get remarried. In the mean time - your whole responsibility is to YOURSELF! Cut him off for in your contact you are supporting his bad behavior. As long as you keep "supporting" him - he really has no reason to change. Why did you give your husband the cocaine?
Why did you mix the drinks for him?

oh, you didn’t?
Then why do you think that you have any part of this?
This is not your deal. In life, you have to stand up and defend your own heart – FIRST!
You are not protecting your heart first – you are acting out in love to work on your husband’s heart. STOP IT! His heart is not your deal now!
Why you feel like a failure?
Because you are embracing his trash as YOUR own! STOP IT!
You are the classic codependent. In some ways this is not wrong. It shows the empathy and compassion you have for another. This is a strong trait for therapists and counselors but they don’t get “sucked” into the life of the client. You are being sucked in – big time.

File for the divorce and get your life back. If things work out – you can always get remarried. In the mean time – your whole responsibility is to YOURSELF! Cut him off for in your contact you are supporting his bad behavior. As long as you keep “supporting” him – he really has no reason to change.

]]> Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by corbettfan11 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1423 corbettfan11 Wed, 14 Apr 2010 01:42:42 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1423 As a recovering addict ( alcoholic ) with over 21 yrs of sobriety i can only state what worked for me.I found through trial and error that the only way to stay sober was to do it for myself and know one else--not family,not my wife,religion or anything just for me.In AA i found that it really is a selfish program.Your husband hasn't hit bottom yet,and until he's sick and tired of being sick and tired,and really wants the program,it wont work for him. There are programs out there like Alanon that will help YOU cope with his disease,join one... for right now your a CO. and your just enabling him....not helping.Remember you have to take care of your self and children...he is a danger to both right now. When i was drunk i was a 1st class asshole,and cared about nothing except getting that drink,and i used whoever and whatever for that purpose.........and i am stil one drink away from again being that person I found that ex drunks got me sober and a continuing program with ex drunks has kept me that way.Addiction is a LIFE LONG disease..you just don't get "well and wonderful" and it's ok. Please..right now you need to be out for yourself and kids..there's no room for him in your life.......and maybe there never will be..and thats ok too.Peace As a recovering addict ( alcoholic ) with over 21 yrs of sobriety i can only state what worked for me.I found through trial and error that the only way to stay sober was to do it for myself and know one else–not family,not my wife,religion or anything just for me.In AA i found that it really is a selfish program.Your husband hasn’t hit bottom yet,and until he’s sick and tired of being sick and tired,and really wants the program,it wont work for him.
There are programs out there like Alanon that will help YOU cope with his disease,join one… for right now your a CO. and your just enabling him….not helping.Remember you have to take care of your self and children…he is a danger to both right now.
When i was drunk i was a 1st class asshole,and cared about nothing except getting that drink,and i used whoever and whatever for that purpose………and i am stil one drink away from again being that person
I found that ex drunks got me sober and a continuing program with ex drunks has kept me that way.Addiction is a LIFE LONG disease..you just don’t get “well and wonderful” and it’s ok.
Please..right now you need to be out for yourself and kids..there’s no room for him in your life…….and maybe there never will be..and thats ok too.Peace

]]> Comment on Lindsay Lohan is in Rehab almost every week? by ?High?Voltage?Blonde? http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/comment-page-1/#comment-1379 ?High?Voltage?Blonde? Tue, 13 Apr 2010 09:17:35 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3890/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/#comment-1379 She is the epitome of the adage "money doesn't buy happiness" The pressure that she has faced, since a very young age, within her own family & the price of fame has obviously taken its toll. I commend her for reaching out and getting help. Unless you can say that you wouldn't cave under the extreme pressure of this lifestyle - be open to vulnerability and don't be so quick to judge. I personally don't care for her acting or her personal antics but she is still a human being - albeit frail. She is the epitome of the adage “money doesn’t buy happiness”

The pressure that she has faced, since a very young age, within her own family & the price of fame has obviously taken its toll.

I commend her for reaching out and getting help.

Unless you can say that you wouldn’t cave under the extreme pressure of this lifestyle – be open to vulnerability and don’t be so quick to judge.

I personally don’t care for her acting or her personal antics but she is still a human being – albeit frail.

]]> Comment on 2nd Time in Rehab Please read this.I Beg You? by Lioness http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1422 Lioness Sun, 11 Apr 2010 18:57:13 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3896/2nd-time-in-rehab-please-read-this-i-beg-you/#comment-1422 You definitely have my prayers. You are also going to get my feedback. You need to stop wondering what you did wrong or blaming yourself, thinking you are a failure. His addiction is about HIM, not you. And in all honesty, you even considering relieving him of his responsibility as a father is a form of enabling. Addicts count on the people closest to them to give them permission to dump their responsibilities on other people. STOP! If you really want to help him, hold him accountable. He's an adult and he has a responsibility as a father. When you "stood by his side" through his first rehab, did you happen to go to any family groups or community support for partners of substance abusers? If you did, and your motive was to be there for HIM, then you missed the entire point of that part of his treatment. What did you do for YOU when he was in rehab, to help yourself get well and learn how to take care of yourself? If you really want to help yourself and your daughter, go buy the book "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty. Read it and learn! Start going to some community support groups, such as Al-Anon, Nar-Anon or Codependents Anonymous. You need as much help as he does. Right now you may not be able to see that. Trust me, you do. And when you go, do it exclusively for you, not to understand or support him. The more work you do on yourself now, the less likely you will be to repeat choosing someone as dysfunctional as your husband. You definitely have my prayers. You are also going to get my feedback. You need to stop wondering what you did wrong or blaming yourself, thinking you are a failure. His addiction is about HIM, not you. And in all honesty, you even considering relieving him of his responsibility as a father is a form of enabling. Addicts count on the people closest to them to give them permission to dump their responsibilities on other people. STOP! If you really want to help him, hold him accountable. He’s an adult and he has a responsibility as a father. When you “stood by his side” through his first rehab, did you happen to go to any family groups or community support for partners of substance abusers? If you did, and your motive was to be there for HIM, then you missed the entire point of that part of his treatment. What did you do for YOU when he was in rehab, to help yourself get well and learn how to take care of yourself?

If you really want to help yourself and your daughter, go buy the book “Codependent No More” by Melodie Beatty. Read it and learn! Start going to some community support groups, such as Al-Anon, Nar-Anon or Codependents Anonymous. You need as much help as he does. Right now you may not be able to see that. Trust me, you do. And when you go, do it exclusively for you, not to understand or support him. The more work you do on yourself now, the less likely you will be to repeat choosing someone as dysfunctional as your husband.

]]> Comment on Lindsay Lohan is in Rehab almost every week? by donna_l_39 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/comment-page-1/#comment-1378 donna_l_39 Sat, 10 Apr 2010 05:09:36 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3890/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/#comment-1378 I agree with you 100%!! I'm sick of watching all the rich losers. I agree with you 100%!! I’m sick of watching all the rich losers.

]]> Comment on Crack Cocaine? by Sean O http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/crack-cocaine/crack-cocaine-5/comment-page-1/#comment-1525 Sean O Fri, 09 Apr 2010 23:17:31 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3934/crack-cocaine-5/#comment-1525 Go get some Crystal meth, and pipe it up with some good buds! They won't be able to detect the crack! KNUCKLEHEAD Go get some Crystal meth, and pipe it up with some good buds! They won’t be able to detect the crack! KNUCKLEHEAD

]]> Comment on Lindsay Lohan is in Rehab almost every week? by Thinks2Much http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/cocaine-rehab/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/comment-page-1/#comment-1377 Thinks2Much Fri, 09 Apr 2010 01:47:51 +0000 http://signsofcocaine.com/signs-of-cocaine/3890/lindsay-lohan-is-in-rehab-almost-every-week/#comment-1377 Feel better? I am glad you got it off your chest. I am sick of all of them AND the amount of press dedicated to them. Feel better? I am glad you got it off your chest.

I am sick of all of them AND the amount of press dedicated to them.

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